A 23 year old who can’t file his own toe nails
It’s 3 a.m. in the 5th floor of the hospital I’ve called home for the last three days. It’s dark, it’s quiet andI have to make a run to the bathroom. But I can’t. My medication leaves me in an altered state of mind, it leaves me dizzy. If I fall I could bleed, my body doesn’t have much blood to spare. I press the button beside my bed, one minute, two, three, four. I’m 23-years-old and I can’t even walk myself to a bathroom. Finally, my escort arrives, she’s blonde, tall, and holds my arm as we walk all of eight feet from my bed to the bathroom. I go in. She follows. She turns her back, a professional move. There I stand, in a 5×5 foot bathroom, trying to think of something funny to say, anything to say. My escort, dressed in her maroon scrubs, remains silent.
I’m done in a minute, ready to go; ready to avoid eye contact at any cost. The journey is made back from the bathroom to my bed– it”s probably more like seven feet, maybe six and a half. I’m helped back onto my mattress, tucked in by the blonde in maroon scrubs, reminded if I need anything–anything at all–to press the call button.
Just last night, right before bed my mother filed my toe nails. Nurses my age walk by, I just smile and nod as mother rounds off the edges.
“Much better,” she adds, gently wipings my feet down with alcohol, we have to be cautious, I can’t afford any infections.
“Thanks mom,” I return in a tone she hardly deserves.
I’m a 23-year-old, who was working full-time less than three weeks ago, living in my own apartment, filing my own nails.
I know I’m being obtuse. I should be happy to accept the care I’m fortunate enough to have, grateful for parents willing to do anything and everything to keep me healthy. And yes, my bone marrow has failed, but my mind hasn’t. It feels as it did last month, craves the same freedom it grew to love over the last year. It doesn’t want to admit that I’m anchored to my sickess for now, and likes to forget I’m attached to a rolling IV unit—–a leash—–24 hours a day. All it seems to remember is that I’m an independent, 23 year-old.





July 16th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
If this site has a mix of news, insight and the emotion and honesty in this, it will be a pleasure to read and follow.
July 16th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
Hang in there bro! You will pull through this.
July 17th, 2009 at 8:17 am
The freedom of your spirit will keep you going through this mess. Your strength and honesty will not fail you.
July 17th, 2009 at 9:06 am
Keep writing, keep accepting however you are able; obtusely, graciously, angrily, humbly, keep your mind’s eye on that freedom, keep craving, keep going on, keep yourself as yourself for that is the person I care for and indeed love.
XOXO, Aunt Michele
July 17th, 2009 at 10:22 am
Hi Matt, I am a friend of your Mom’s .Feel like I know you a bit from all our “Mom” conversations over the years. Your writing is wonderful,Your attidude positive and inspiring. A little saying you might like to keep your spirits bolstered during this very rough time. “Many men owe the grandeur of their lives to their tremendous difficulties” Oh one more a Chinese proverb I guess. “The gem cannot be polished without friction,nor man perfected without trials” Better Days to come Matt . You and your wonderful Mom and family are in my thoughts .Carolyn .P.
July 17th, 2009 at 3:39 pm
Love this way of writing Matt, great story. Miss you.
July 18th, 2009 at 8:59 pm
Matt,
I am a friend of your Aunt Michele’s. We met a few times. It is quite courageous of you to write your story. To those of us who follow your journey it is inspiring and also a gift. There is so much we can learn from you. Matt, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I’ll keep reading about your journey!
Sharon Scibek
July 18th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
Matt, You really still are the little 5 year old boy who climbed on the roof of the car..spread eagle and bellowed
“I know I can hang on until 80(route 80);after that who knows what will happen”. Strong,Brave,Courageous and always inspiring.
July 20th, 2009 at 9:20 am
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July 27th, 2009 at 1:37 am
not sure how I missed this blog, but I am definitely happy I read it. Glad that day is over I’m sure..
August 6th, 2009 at 7:20 pm
My brother, who heard the diagnosis today still thinks he can cycle to hospital to get his transfusions.
He still thinks he can swim in the sea, and work out, he’s in his 30′s
oh Matt.